The role of family carers in the delivery of mental health services in Australia has become more than an advantage over not having this sort of participation. Increasingly the involvement of non-paid carers (family members and significant others) has been recognised as central to the smooth delivery of care and treatment. Notwithstanding this acknowledgment, there is very little discussion of carer participation in mental health care delivery within the literature. The limited research in this area suggests that carers recognize very little opportunity for genuine participation, even less than is available to consumers. This paper presents part 1 of the findings of an exploratory, qualitative study seeking an in-depth understanding of the attitudes of carers from rural Victoria, Australia toward opportunities for participation with specific emphasis on the role of psychiatric nurses in encouraging or discouraging participation. The themes of respect and communication will be described in this paper. These findings demonstrate the variable experiences of carers in their opportunities to participate and the important role nurses can assume in supporting both carers and consumers through this process.