As a qualitative researcher, the process of designing and undertaking an ethnographic study commenced with intellectual curiosity to enhance understanding about the nature and meaning attached to patient-nurse interactions in nursing culture. This endeavor drew my attention to the role of one’s self in research, from methodological and philosophical perspectives. The following discussion explores my personal experience of learning how self is an inherent part of research and the ongoing nature of self-discovery throughout the research process. Two areas are addressed: the delicate methodological interplay of participant-researcher reciprocity; and research authenticity by declaring ones beliefs, values and life experiences. Disclosing one’s self, your own story and sharing your discovery of self, facilitates disclosure and openness by participants. Giving of one’s self is risky, yet in addition to enhancing the authenticity of the research, there are personal challenges, rewards and cathartic benefits in becoming aware of, and acknowledging, the interconnection between one’s personhood, one’s research and research participants.